This picture is from my journal where I put my mantra: “Your Power is in the Present Moment. Tune In.”
As part of this workshop I’m doing, I had to come up with a mantra that serves as a megaphone to my intuition so that I hear myself. A mantra that will put me in a place where I will listen and hear me above the noise, above the should’s, the could’s, the would’s and the opinions of others.
In order to come up with this mantra, I made a list of all the things I say to myself when I’m in stress/ in survival/ feeling out-of-control mode. The theme was be present, what is your body telling you and you cannot control others, you can only control yourself. So for me the summary is – Your power is in the present moment; tune in.
Sometimes it is so much easier to be in the future or in the past rather than be present. Even when we are blissfully happy, we are waiting for the other shoe to drop. We want control and certainty. When I’m feeling out of control and wanting to control, I start making everything about the other person. He/she is doing this or why didn’t he/ she do this or worse I create a big story around limited information and take it on as truth. When I find myself in this loop of thinking, I know I am emotionally attached, feeling out of control yet seeking control and I am completely leaving myself out of the equation. It is so much easier to focus on others and not our own stuff.
The other classic scenario is when I start polling people sometimes random people to get their opinion on something. That’s when I know I’m in trouble because I’m not tuning into my intuition which already knows the answer. It is amazing what you will discover if you stop, get quite and listen. There is too much noise in this world, too much stimulation, to many sources telling you who you need to be. We don’t listen to ourselves enough. We just go along in autopilot. When I’m at networking functions or find myself sitting next to a stranger, instead of asking them what do you do, I’ve started asking “what do you love? what do you love to do?” I get the strangest looks and I have not had one person that can answer my question. Usually I have to elaborate and say, “you know what is play for you? What do you do that you completely lose track of time?” And they will say, “I have a dog and I like to walk my dog.” Not many people are tuning in to what makes them joyful and playful. I know that I get completely immersed and loose track of time when I am taking pictures. That is what I love; it is play for me.
The thing is, we go nonstop because it is easier than being present. We compare and compete because we are trying to prove ourselves. Do you ever stop and say is it worth it, am I on the right path or do you forge ahead because your ego is being stroked? Often times we don’t get intune with this way of thinking until we’re old and lived our entire lives or it takes a tragedy to wake us up.
As soon as I write the words tragedy, I hold my breath because 17 years ago today, November 2, 1998 I almost died in a car wreck. My colon was completely severed. I was in CCU for two weeks. There were about 3 scenarios where I could have died. Often I have thought, I must have been spared for a reason, I must have more to do in this life, more love to spread. But who really knows. There are plenty of people who have not survived and have lost loved ones who would kill to hear their voice again or have a fight with them. Who would give anything to be vulnerable with that person that is no longer here. You see, being present and showing up in our life is courageous, its vulnerable and its important. It is hurtful when we don’t show up. It is hurtful to ourselves and to the people we love. Then when tragedy sets in, we think – only if…
There may not be anything more important in your life than tuning in and being present. You might be surprised what you discover, what you are pushing against for no good reason, the drama you are creating in your life and all the creative energy you are wasting worrying about things that you cannot control because you are too afraid to listen to your own inner knowing. Just let the bullshit go and find your joy and your groove. Find what makes you come alive, what you love to do. You are worth it.
And now for full disclosure – what you teach is what you need to learn. I’m a total work in progress and I have had an eye-opening experience through trauma. So be gentle with yourselves and mindful of your thoughts and feelings. Know that there is no event, no thought, no feeling that defines who you are. You choose that. You write the ending to your story even if the ending happens in a sequel.